So turns out that figuring out what one is suppose to do with their life is not as easy as I thought it would be….
I have constantly put pressure on myself to be something that I’m not sure I ever wanted to be.
From the very beginning I wanted to be just like my dad. He is a very successful businessman so I figured a business major was the way to go; I would be just like him and make lots of money. Well that didn’t last very long, I soon realized that I needed creativity in my life. Thinking creatively and doing something with my hands is what defines me; I guess that is why I am now a graphic designer. I went back to school in my mid 20’s and finished a 3 year program with honours (thank you very much). It was one of the hardest things I have ever done, leaving a full time job working for my dad to go back to school, but I never felt more free than I did then. I found myself a nice part time job in the retail world (a job that in some way or other saved me).
My goal with life for the next little while is to be happy; to focus on what makes me the happiest and moving on from what doesn’t feel right. Not knowing what the future holds is stressful but sometimes you just gotta give’er! (as my husband would say). For example I might become an art director one day or I might not but I’m going to work damn hard to find out. Whatever I choose to do will be what puts a smile on my face everyday.
I recently had a conversation with one of my greatest inspirations… my papou (dad), and he told me that as long as I work hard, take chances and work on my ideas one at a time, good things will happen.
Now I sort of knew what he meant but here’s what it comes down to. Make a list of your ideas, dreams and goals and pick one, work on that one thing as much as you can and see where it takes you. It may or may not be what you dreamed of but something will come out of it. You will learn valuable lessons, meet all sorts of people that will influence you and more importantly you will have taken a step toward what makes you happy.
For some reason those words reasoned with me. He’s right and I know it and I’m also sure I’m not the only one who feels like this. I often come up with different life plans and dreams but that’s the only thing they’ll ever be, a dream. Fear of failure seems to creep in and ruin every glimmer of hope I had for it.
I read an article about fear and rejection yesterday and that challenged its readers to fail at something at least once a day for 30 days. The author claims that the more you fail or get rejected the less scared you will be to do things you might not succeed at on the first try. I found the concept to be great and also scary enough that I might actually try it?!
Here’s a little bit of the article:
“Failure 101: What You Should Know About Flopping
- Get out of your head: Anytime you find yourself overthinking something, you are stalling. It’s a cue that you need to act.
- Baby steps: Don’t start with the big stuff, you are in training. Pick something small, take a calculated risk and get ready for a few minor failures.
- Play the numbers game: All you need is the right person to take an interest. Keep putting your ideas out there until you find the one who says yes.
- Desensitize yourself: The more often you put yourself out there, the more accustomed you’ll become to failing—and it’ll be easier each time. Try to fail at something once a day.
- Act without permission: Stop waiting for the establishment to pick you; find ways to get your ideas out there on your own. It won’t always work, but it’s always worth a shot.
- The Five-Second Rule: When you have an impulse to act, you must move on it in five seconds, or your brain will kill it. Make it a habit to act.
- Be yourself: Listen to your instincts and blaze your own trail to victory (and failure). Get inspired by others, but remember your path and your failures are yours.
- Plan to fail: Yes, you’re going to fail—many, many times. So what! Push yourself to do it anyway so that your feelings don’t stop you. You might just surprise yourself and succeed. “
– Mel Robbins / http://www.success.com/article/the-mel-robbins-guide-to-screwing-up
“Failure is an essential part of moving forward, of learning, of being human.”
What do you guys think would you try this?
What’s holding you back?